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最近不知道为什么,老是心烦

又是一天过去了，好烦现在的生活，不知道自己在干什么？不知道自己要去何方。讨厌这个社会，讨厌现在这类人，不纯朴，不诚实......

总觉得没有人理解。

心中的孤单寂寞要用什么来填补？

posted by Anthonio @ 6/19/2007 11:33:00 PM 0 comments

人死后的第一感觉是什么？

人死后的第一感觉是什么？一种强烈的欣喜之情。。。。。。

据俄媒体报道，根据对4000个有过临床死亡经历的人们的调查，死后的世界很可能是存在的。雷蒙-莫迪对4000个有过临床死亡经历的人们进行了调查，并在《死后的生命》一书中表示，死后很可能还存在着另一个世界。早在20世界初，一个叫做伯恩特的德国医生就曾下过决心，要弄明白人们死后的感觉是怎样的，他对很多经历过临床死亡，或徘徊在生死边界的人们进行了调查。根据这位医生搜集的详细材料，死而复生的人们在进入死亡世界后首先体验到的是一种强烈的欣喜之情。

阿诺德-齐格弗里德曾掉落到阿尔卑斯山的峡谷中，在下跌了300米后，幸好他的身体落在一根树枝上，从而大大减轻了冲撞力。他在生死边缘徘徊了好几天之久，恢复知觉后他回忆说：“我觉得自己下坠的过程很长很长，我感到一阵强烈的欣喜，我一生中从来没有过那么好的感觉。”很多“死而复生”的人们都表示他们经历了难以言传的喜悦，同时，死亡也是一个奇怪的历程，生命的最后时刻似乎被拉得很长。莫迪表示，面对死亡的威胁时，一个人能够在一秒钟的时间里回忆起整个一生中发生的所有事情。例如一位司机回忆说，当他的卡车从桥上掉下去时，他“想起了一生中所有的事情，看到了一些景象，它们栩栩如生，和真的一样。首先我想起自己两岁时怎样跟在父亲身后走在河岸上，然后我想到5岁时我的玩具车怎样被弄坏了，我还想到第一次上学时我怎样号啕大哭，我的眼泪落在母亲给我买的黄色雨衣上。我记起上学时所在的每一个年级，教过我的每一个老师，20岁之前的每一年都在我脑海中出现，然后我的记忆进入了成年后的日子。我在一秒钟之内看到了所有这些景象，然后一切都结束了，我站在那里看着我的卡车，卡车已经完全坠毁了，但我居然安然无恙，我从摔碎的挡风玻璃框中跳出来。我能想起自己看到的所有景象，这要花15分钟，可是当时所有那一切都发生在短短的一秒钟之内。”

科学家们无法解释即将死去的人们如何能够通过一个狭窄的通道，然后看到一个生动的“死后世界”以及这个世界中的“居民”，尽管那时人的身体功能已经基本上停止了运转。他们也无法解释，为什么不仅仅是濒临死亡的人们，还有那些紧急关头的人们也能看到一生的“电影”，为什么将死的人们能够从外界看到他们自己，看到他们的身体以及他们所在的房间。对于濒临死亡的人们，时间的速度快速改变着。人们能够在死亡之前的瞬间享受一生中最美好的回忆，这是一种格外美好的感觉，能够集中起所有的注意力，将死亡推到一边。一旦人们不再抗拒死亡，就会发生以下的事情：在黑暗的甬道中飞翔，看到生者(比较罕见)和早已逝去的亲属，在一些美丽的场所和具有极高修养的人们(圣者？)倾心交谈，总结自己的一生(如果此前没有放过“电影”)，并决定是停留在死后的世界还是返回人世。

所有从死亡中醒来的人们都表示，他们在死前的瞬间感到极度的欢乐，但回到人世后却有一种强烈的厌恶之情，他们说：“那里的时间是不同的。”“那里的时间就好像甜蜜的果汁。”从这些说法中，也许可以推测出有另外一个世界。

难道这一切都是真的？我们的灵魂将在死后飞往另一个世界？与死亡的瞬间相比，人的一生是漫长的，与人的生命相比，死后的虚无世界是永恒的。且不要去管死后的时间到底怎样，是变慢，还是变快，还是根本就不存在，所有的人都会有机会知道这一点。但愿您在尽可能久远的将来才知道这个答案。。。。。

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Think Positive

Think Positive & Take Control of Your life . . .

You are what you think!
You get what you focus on! . . .

So, Think Positive!


Why Think Positively?
All of our feelings, beliefs and knowledge are based on our internal thoughts, both conscious and subconscious. We are in control, whether we know it or not. We can be positive or negative, enthusiastic or dull, active or passive.

The biggest difference between people is their attitudes. For some, learning is enjoyable and exciting. For others, learning is drudgery. For many, learning is just okay, something required on the road to a job.

Our present attitudes are habits, built from the feedback of parents, friends, society and self, that forms our self-image and our world-image. These attitudes are maintained by the inner conversations we constantly have with ourselves, both consciously and subconsciously.
The first step in changing our attitudes is to change our inner conversations.

What Should We Be Saying?
One approach is the three C's: Commitment, Control and Challenge.

Commitment
Make a positive commitment to yourself, to learning, work, family, friends, nature, and other worthwhile causes. Praise yourself and others. Dream of success. Be enthusiastic.

Control
Keep your mind focused on important things. Set goals and priorities for what you think and do. Visualize practicing your actions. Develop a strategy for dealing with problems. Learn to relax. Enjoy successes. Be honest with yourself.

Challenge
Be courageous. Change and improve each day. Do your best and don't look back. See learning and change as opportunities. Try new things. Consider several options. Meet new people. Ask lots of questions. Keep track of your mental and physical health. Be optimistic.
Studies show that people with these characteristics are winners in good times and survivors in hard times.

Research shows that,
"... people who begin consciously to modify their inner conversations and assumptions report an almost immediate improvement in their performance. Their energy increases and things seem to go better ..."

Commitment, control and challenge help build self-esteem and promote positive thinking.



Quoted from www.thinkpositive.uk.com

posted by Anthonio @ 4/20/2006 09:25:00 PM 0 comments

Setting Personal Goals

Setting Personal Goals
By Chris Joscelyne

Without personal goals life can be an aimless journey lacking positive direction and achievement. If your life is to follow a Positive Path you need a plan, and to establish a plan personal goals are necessary.

Before you start setting your personal goals you need to consider what you want to achieve with your life. One mistake many people make is that their personal goals just relate to career pursuits rather than to all the important areas of life. This can lead to an unbalanced existence.

To focus your personal goal setting on the various areas in your life, consider setting goals in each of the following categories. They are listed in alphabetical order for convenience, however where each goal category is ranked in importance is really up to the individual.

Career
What is your chosen vocation? What level do you want to reach in your career, and by when?

Community Service
Do you want to help make the world a better place? If so, how?

Creative
Do you want to achieve any creative goals? If so, in what artistic pursuit?

Education
Is there any knowledge you want to acquire in particular? What information and skills will you need to achieve your other goals?

Family
Do you want to be a life partner and parent? If so, how are you going to do this well? What kind of relationship do you want with your partner, your children and other family members?

Financial
How much money do you want to earn at various stages of your life? What planning is required in order to accumulate wealth, use it wisely and share the benefits with those you choose?

Physical
Are there any fitness and sporting goals you want to achieve? What steps are you going to take to achieve this?

Recreation
How do you want to enjoy yourself? Are there any interests, hobbies, pastimes or social activities in which you want to be involved?

Write down your goals in each of your categories and consider them carefully. Are they realistic? What is your time-line to achieve them? Are there different time-lines for different goals?

Next, divide each goal into smaller intermediate time-line goals that will help you plan your Positive Path and measure your progress. These will be progressively smaller goals that will eventually lead you to your major goals. For example, if you are planning a time-line of 20 years, divide goals into smaller goals that need to be achieved if you are to reach your major goals. To do this, set a 5-year goal, a 1-year goal, a 3-month goal and a 1-month goal in each category and set an estimated start month and year for each time-line.

Remember, your circumstances at any given time can impact on your goals. New experiences and new information can see your goals and priorities change with time. This is part of the real world, however goal changes need to be scrutinised before they are adopted to ensure that they are realistic and not just a diversion with little chance of success.

By keeping yourself well informed about the world around you and your place in it, and by being honest with yourself, you will find that the quality and realism of your goal setting will get better with time and practice.

About the author: Chris Joscelyne trained as a clinical hypnotherapist under the tutorage of Margaret Tomko. He was taught grief counselling by Mal McKissock, and he learned meditation in a course sponsored by the Department of Health. He developed his personal awareness knowledge with mentors Barbara and Terry Tebo of Lifespring.
For ten years Chris was a visiting lecturer at the Australian Film, Television and Radio School where he taught personal development, meditation and stress management skills. Now he shares his knowledge with a wider community as a speaker, trainer and coach, teaching people how to live "Life by choice - not by chance".

posted by Anthonio @ 3/29/2006 02:59:00 AM 0 comments

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Listen and Improve Your Communication Skill

Listen and Improve Your Communication Skill
By Chris Joscelyne

There is no doubt that "gift of the gab", or the ability to speak clearly, is a valuable skill, however it was not speaking skill, but listening skill that helped me advance as an employee and later as an employer. I learnt very early in my career that good communication requires good listening. Listening is a very powerful and underestimated skill so I spent a lot of time and effort developing good listening practices.

Most people are not naturally good listeners, and folk with the so-called "gift of the gab" tend to be very poor listeners. Many good talkers think that listening is simply waiting for their turn to speak. They can allow the smallest things to distract them and I have found that many are so busy thinking up the next clever thing to say that often they are not comprehending what is being said to them.

Very few people are taught listening skills, although one of my students at the Australian Film Television and Radio School claimed he had been given listening lessons every time his dad had yelled at him: "Shut-up and listen!" That is certainly nothing like the listening lessons I'm talking about.

I have learnt that everyone knows something I don't know . . . my job is to listen long enough to find what that information is, and if it is useful … use it. I have learnt how to keep an open mind, how to give the speaker my full attention, how to ask clarifying questions and how to remember what was said.

Since the 1950's sociologists have talked about the "generation gap", the perceived inability for young people to get along with their parents. If the "generation gap" is true, why then is it that grandparents and grandchildren seem to get on so well together? Some cynics suggest that grandparents and grandchildren get on well together because they share a common enemy, but I believe it's because grandparents are mostly good listeners. They have time to listen properly to what their grandchildren are saying, with good eye contact and undivided attention. Many parents fail in this regard because they spend too much time talking and not enough time listening.

Here is some good advice that I was given. When you are talking you learn nothing. When you are listening, the potential for learning is unlimited. I am very grateful that I received this advice because it is a great truth.

Are you a good listener? If you are, you have a valuable skill. If you are not a good listener, it is never too late to start. You will find practical suggestions on how to develop your listening skills in articles featured in the Positive Ideas section of this web site.

About the author: Chris Joscelyne trained as a clinical hypnotherapist under the tutorage of Margaret Tomko. He was taught grief counselling by Mal McKissock, and he learned meditation in a course sponsored by the Department of Health. He developed his personal awareness knowledge with mentors Barbara and Terry Tebo of Lifespring.

For ten years Chris was a visiting lecturer at the Australian Film, Television and Radio School where he taught personal development, meditation and stress management skills. Now he shares his knowledge with a wider community as a speaker, trainer and coach, teaching people how to live.

posted by Anthonio @ 3/20/2006 06:49:00 AM 0 comments